We had our departmental Thanksgiving lunch yesterday at work. The AVP came by and asked our newest employee if she was liking working at the company. I quietly said to my other coworker "No", jokingly of course. We both started laughing hysterically, we even let my boss in on what was said and she couldn't stop laughing either.
This got me thinking about the common questions we always ask and we always expect to hear "yes, great" or "I'm just fine thank you" out of habit. So what happens when someone throws you the answer you are not expecting to hear? Do we actually even really want to know? Do they even want us to know?
I was chatting with my friend who told me she had no idea a friend of hers was going through a life changing ordeal. I told my friend that her friend probably didn't want anyone to know. People sometimes hide their feelings or what they are going through because they don't want to be judged or have their actions questioned. Sometimes people pretend to be happy when they are not because they don't want to be alone.
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All we can do is be there for each other, without judgement, because sometimes you can not help how you feel, you just do.